Kathie Kobler

Meaningful moments: The use of ritual in perinatal and pediatric death

Rituals provide meaning and order to transitions, and symbolically connect people and events. Despite the prevalence of perinatal loss (miscarriage, stillbirth, and newborn death) and pediatric deaths, little has been written about the use of rituals surrounding these losses. The purpose of this article is to define the dimensions of a ritual as each pertains to perinatal and pediatric death, and provide concrete applications for use in clinical practice. Intention, participation, and meaning-making are the key dimensions of rituals that arise from clinical encounters. Initiating the discussion about ritual and the timing of the ritual itself are critical elements for the nurse who is caring for a bereaved family. Because of the paucity of research on using rituals in perinatal and pediatric death, nurse researchers should design studies that explore the outcomes of using rituals, both in the short- and long-term, following the death.

Making a case: creating a perinatal palliative care service using a perinatal bereavement program model.

ABSTRACT This article explores the innovative approach of creating a perinatal palliative care service in an institution that already has a perinatal bereavement program. The proposed model focuses on the importance of establishing and maintaining relationship among and between nurses, other clinicians, and parents. The authors examine theoretical and clinical perspectives, recognizing the presence of both grief and hope from the moment of a life-threatening fetal diagnosis. The article identifies key program development processes, potential barriers, and practical implementation strategies as methods to ensure the delivery of seamless perinatal palliative care from diagnosis, through pregnancy, delivery, and the babys living and dying.

The tie that binds: relationships in perinatal bereavement.

Relationship is a central concept to the delivery of quality perinatal bereavement care. This article explores relevant bereavement research and clinically based writings about relationship in the care of families experiencing perinatal loss. Focusing on relationship provides a framework to guide interventions that will be perceived as meaningful and helpful to grieving parents. From the moment parents learn the difficult news of their babys poor prognosis or death, nurses must strive to establish trust while building an effective working relationship with the family. A nurse with an understanding of the relationship needs can guide parents in creating a context for supporting each family member dealing with this unexpected family tragedy. Through sensitive follow-up bereavement care, nurses provide a source of hope for grieving families over time. Ultimately, nurses must find meaningful ways of self-care as a way of reinvesting in future relationship with other grieving families.

Respectful disposition in early pregnancy loss.

This article discusses an issue rarely seen in the professional literature: the tangible ways nurses can respect a womans needs following miscarriage by ensuring the safe handling and disposition of fetal tissue or remains. Concepts of personhood, place, and protection are important for nurses to understand within the context of a womans response to miscarriage. Hospitals or clinics that foster a culture of respectful fetal disposition should have a system in place to bury tissue or fetal remains in a designated area; in fact, several states have enacted laws that regulate what hospitals and clinics must do, or what women must be offered, after a miscarriage or ectopic pregnancy. Barriers may exist to creating a culture of respectful disposition, including staff attitudes, perceived time and financial constraints, lack of knowledge, and inefficient communication between departments. Nurses can begin implementing change in this regard through conducting a needs assessment using guiding questions contained in this article. In addition, through communication, education, and implementation of respectful disposition, nurses can promote safe processes that will honor womens preferences and wishes for care following a miscarriage.

Will Our Baby Be Alive Again? Supporting Parents of Young Children When a Baby Dies

Many families who experience perinatal loss may have young children who were looking forward to being a big brother or sister. Suddenly, these children become bereaved siblings before they had much of a chance to be just siblings, and nurses are often called upon to help parents decide when and how to tell surviving children.

Combining regional expertise to form a bereavement support alliance.

AbstractProviding compassionate bereavement care for families experiencing perinatal loss is a standard of care in most healthcare organizations. In this article, we describe the development of The Alliance of Perinatal Bereavement Support Facilitators, begun over 25 years ago in Chicago by staff who identified the need to reach out to colleagues at other area institutions for advice and support in this work. This collaboration created a regional support network that has resulted in a long-lasting, active, sustainable organization of excellence focused on enhancing practice, education, and perinatal bereavement care. Alliance activities center around four main areas: education, networking/support, policy, and recognizing outstanding service to families. By continuing to draw upon the collective talent, wisdom, and expertise of its members, The Alliance still serves grieving families and provides mentoring for future interdisciplinary team members engaged in this work. The path taken to build this organization can be used by professionals in other specialties who are looking to create their own alliance infrastructure based on mutual benefit and interest.

Leaning in and holding on: team support with unexpected death.

AbstractIntegral to the care of medically fragile infants and children is the sobering reality that not all will survive. Supporting children and families through the dying process requires knowledge, skill, compassion, and a willingness to be present to the suffering of others. As healthcare professionals journey with a dying child, they experience an ongoing dual nature of their own grief, shifting between focusing on the loss at hand or avoiding the loss and refocusing their attention elsewhere.This internal conflict may be potentiated with the sudden, unexpected death of a patient, which affords little time for caregivers to process their own experience of the loss. When an unanticipated death occurs, a palpable grief ripples through the entire unit, impacting caregivers, the bereaved parents, and other patients and families. Such an event holds the potential for either team disorganization or growth. This article presents a case study of one units response to the unexpected death of a long-term patient, which caused caregivers to lean in to support each other. Using a case study approach, the author identifies strategies to best guide teams when death arrives without warning, and provides ideas for cocreating ritual to honor relationship in the midst of tragedy.